“Wait, Is This a romantic date?”: A Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to
“Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date”
the podcast about queer dating there is a constant understood you always required, organized by me personally, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was born away from Drew and that I’s mutual passion for sound memos and strong discussions about dating. We’ve been giving both voice memos for just over per year today, going deeply on the situations Drew really loves about matchmaking (individuals! enjoyable! flirting!) together with situations I dislike about matchmaking (People! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of enjoyment, considerate, and insightful talks and honestly, it seemed rude to rob the higher community ones!

Think about us since your friendly area co-hosts, leading you through super certain queer dating conundrums because seriously, directly online dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG stories? How will you take very long, drawn-out flirting to the next level? How much does it indicate to think men and women are into you? We are going to talk to the Autostraddle’s finest authors, perform some extremely certain games, report on our very own pop music tradition crushes of-the-moment and of course, you will need to respond to the endless concern of our own times:

Wait…is this a romantic date???

Pay attention to the teaser below and whet your appetite, after which smash that “subscribe” key wherever great podcasts tend to be distributed, hence guaranteeing you a delightful August 11th, as soon as the basic formal event drops!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. Referring to

Hold off, So Is This a romantic date?

An Autostraddle podcast which focused on practical question, “hold off, is this a night out together?”

Drew:

I am so thrilled to discover.

Theme tune plays

Christina:

Yeah. In my opinion we have been on a trip to discover exactly what are times and exactly what are maybe not dates, as pals, and in addition as a people, In my opinion.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what the entire indealment is actually, like whatever you’re as much as in this time?

Drew:

Like whom our company is?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I will get initially. I’m Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the web site. I really do many movie and television criticism, and sex and matchmaking writing, and personal essays, and issues that incorporate all those circumstances. I’m trans and I am a lesbian, and that I feel like i ought to add a third thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what else? Exactly what else?

Christina:

Things carry out go on threes. You have got great tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thank you so much.

Christina:

You’ve got amazing tresses, i do believe which is vital.

Drew:

Those tend to be my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic tresses.

Christina:

Those tend to be your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I always mentioned that you happen to be a lady of locks experience. I’ve always mentioned that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I am Christina Tucker. I will be additionally an author at Autostraddle, whenever you can accept is as true, whom writes about… oh, let us simply state whatever pops into their heads. That’s actually the ambiance. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Black. I don’t know who more i will be.

Drew:

You also have fantastic tresses.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, i am talking about, i believe this might be perhaps a podcast of tresses knowledge. Possibly that need to be our tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I guess people are likely wondering exactly how we got to this podcast especially.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in daily life — and also by that What i’m saying is, really, not too many — it began as a highdea, as a thing that we delivered you in a vocals memo, high. And going back beyond that, we started delivering vocals memos to each other in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am simply probably show like the thoughts that You will find, and then you may go following that and reply to me, maybe not react to me personally, whatever. I’m the same as, this is exactly myself being immediate and clear. Okay. Im some body who… I like dealing with matchmaking. It is certainly one of my personal major topics of talk. We have today mentioned my personal part.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thank you for saying the piece. Also, six mins and 54 moments. Really, instead impressive to get that out in that period of time. We not really think of internet dating. In my opinion, probably, an opposite sense of your like to contemplate internet dating and mention matchmaking and, like, be internet dating. I think those are my personal views. Really, i am giving a Drew-level voice memo, a Drew-length vocals memo today. I’m going to deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I understand that you don’t think of matchmaking, most certainly not as much as myself, possibly less than others I understand?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about matchmaking below virtually anyone I additionally understand. I’m not sure. We genuinely don’t know basically’ve came across anyone who willn’t think of matchmaking in so far as I do or as far as I don’t, i assume.

Drew:

We did not really know both. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but also for people that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is actually an online office space. It really is a lot more of a Slack circumstance than a, everyone show up to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That’s not truly the feeling. We didn’t actually know both. Right after which, the start of pandemic, there was clearly some DM sliding and some relationship building plus some voice memoing. Therefore we would constantly joke that it was like we’d a podcast because we’d deliver these lengthy voice memos. And while I was actually stoned, I was like, “We in fact should.” And here our company is.

Christina:

Yeah. I understand everything imply by high tactics never getting the best tips, but i actually do have a very obvious recollection of hearing you say that and being like, “Yeah, naturally we have to have a podcast. We have been doing for each additional. Why-not ask other people involved with it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Generally my personal large some ideas tend to be things such as, “Oh my personal Jesus, there must be a TV show known as

Find Your Own Superstar Twin,

in which you grab a high profile and then they satisfy a person that — like an arbitrary one who has their unique identical delivery data. That also, is one of my personal large ideas that In my opinion was great. It’s like…

Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

Which is a totally free one. I really don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, i am acquiring you money, my goal is to end up being your cash manager for that. No way.

Drew:

I simply need to see this stuff worldwide. Basically, this can be a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. Plus one of the reasons exactly why truly that subject, as opposed to any number of other activities Christina and I also explore, is simply because Everyone loves online dating and Christina will not love matchmaking and that is a great small.

Christina:

Less of an admirer.

Drew:

And conflict is really… that is where crisis takes place. In my opinion Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Absolutely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that’s our topic. We’re going to include all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will discuss most of the greatest queer online dating conundrums, dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from potential episode:

Correct me if I’m wrong, but i do believe Instagram is the best queer internet dating application.

Shelli, in sound clip from future episode:

One thousand percent. This is the most readily useful.

Christina, in sound video from future occurrence:

I heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential event:

Positively. It gives you you actually all you need, unless of course someone’s personal. But even if you’re exclusive, baby, we’ll see everything about you, some kind of way.

Drew, in sound clip from future occurrence:

We are going to mention the most effective intercourse we have now ever had.

Dani, in sound video from future event:

After which I finally asked like, “No, do you run over here to possess sex? Tend to be we likely to have intercourse?” And so they happened to be like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” Plus it had been like, the cat therefore the dog had been from inside the room there had been cat-and-dog locks every-where. And that I was actually like, absolutely having an allergic response although we had been sex. The climax was actually, like, chef’s kiss. It was the right experience.

Drew, in sound clip from future episode:

Wow.

Christina, in sound clip from future event:

We question whether it’s some thing concerning hives that actually included. Like only a little ‘jenesequa’ to this climax experience. It actually was like, “Ooh, i am some itchy also.” I ponder simply how much that facets. We’re dealing with just how to breakup with folks.

Ro, in sound video from future event:

It is like a tremendously directly lifestyle thing, too.

Christina, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio clip from future episode:

At least if you ask me, I feel like… My personal right pals are those that happen to be very likely to state, “Well, shag that individual. See your face sucks,” easily finish a relationship with some body. While, queer people in living are the ones who will be more prone to keep relationships with exes or perhaps see our very own exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

All you could contemplate in a dating podcast, and that I’m maybe not probably sit for your requirements individuals, additionally a lot more. Significantly more than you might actually think of.

Drew, in sound clip from future event:

When you are sexting via text, will it be like what you need all of them… are you currently doing role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re holding me personally at this time” or “I wish you’re pressing,” what tense tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound video from future occurrence:

Yeah, I found myself likely to ask the same question, actually, for the reason that it’s something that’s constantly interesting in my experience, particularly even though we are all article writers, also.

Christina, in sound video from future event:

I became gonna say, several experts like, “just what tense are we working?”

Kayla, in sound clip from potential episode:

Standpoint.

Christina, in sound video from potential event:

Its an in depth 3rd, what is actually taking place right here?

Kayla, in audio clip from future episode:

Like, purely second?

Drew:

Listed here is the thing about queer men and women. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thanks for visiting your TED Chat. Let’s go off.

Drew:

There is numerous experiences and are a lot more fascinating. Merely once I consider the way that right folks speak about internet dating, it’s therefore boring. And I also think-so typically, queer dating talks tend to be extensions from the mainstream matchmaking discourse, but including things like “developing” and “very first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” Its like — there is a lot more nuance in so much more… It is very exciting. Exactly what a global that it’s, queer gender and queer relationship.

Christina:

We have used like the really traditional particular monotonous design of heterosexual matchmaking and extremely introduced it into a globe, filled with extended conversations and handling all of our emotions. It is wonderful work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am really thrilled and I also hope all of you are thrilled, because our very own basic episode arrives weekly from nowadays following, there’ll be brand-new periods every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been seven days and soon you’ll notice our very own podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not merely get

To L and Straight Back

on Mondays, you will get

Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, so if you dislike me personally, i suppose you aren’t experiencing Autostraddle podcasts. While you do just like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

In addition, unless you like Drew, mature, is really what I have to state.

Drew:

I’m not for all of us, I’m okay thereupon. I do believe it’s probably good to never be for all.

Christina:

Certain. I do believe which is entirely reasonable. And possibly an interest we could discuss on a single of your potential episodes. What takes place when you’re not for everyone? I loved that We went like, “Ooh, let’s get this all-inclusive.” What happens whenever you, we, as people. You stated, let’s do a whole event about, “What if I’m not for everyone?”

Drew:

Well, it is Leo period and I’m a Leo soaring and that I felt like rendering it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thanks a whole lot.

Drew:

We’re double Leo risings about this podcast, that is certainly element of the reason why it’s going to be brilliant. You’ll hear united states anywhere you hear your own podcast. It will likely be a fairly standard podcast scenario. Nothing extravagant, no riddles would have to be resolved to find the event, it will likely be right there for you personally.

Christina:

Not the boss people. There’s lots of options, carry out what you will really.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you can find united states on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may e-mail us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you will discover me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal title in the present tight.

Christina:

I’ve checked your social networking accounts many times and that I haven’t, until this second, recognized that it’s “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that is the thing, Drew had been used and I do not know how… Oh, I became dating some one which in fact… really this person just who we dated, i did not get a large number out of that commitment, except we stated this concept and she believed it was therefore funny, like as well funny, seriously, like an element of the problem, In my opinion possibly. And that I had been encouraged to take action, after which it is simply stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Occasionally individuals think I’m a visual artist and you also know very well what, I love to be looked at like that, but i can not, I really don’t obviously have drawing skills.

Christina:

I’ll state there is nothing much more about brand name for Drew than being like, “Oh, which is your own Twitter handle.” Therefore becoming like, “in fact, it’s a funny tale about internet dating.”

Drew:

Certainly, just.

Christina:

Great.

Drew:

What exactly are your own personal manages, and therefore are they attached to your romantic life?

Christina:

Simply, no. You might get me at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the website. And when you intend to discover me personally on Instagram, can help you therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really truly brave of me to know my personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Wonderful work.

Christina:

Cheers such.

Drew:

It certainly is a happiness to talk to you and I’m very excited to plunge into all these interesting topics. As well as all of our audience to arrive at understand all of us a little bit much better acquire to… I think we could all, i believe all of us are likely to find out about trip.

Christina:

I am hoping therefore. We signed up for reading.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a college length of podcasts. That caused it to be seem like a complete bummer. Therefore sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I’d some fantastic school classes.

Christina:

Demonstrably, I did as well, but I Really Don’t should make anybody—

Drew:

Can you envisage exactly how incredible it might be should you arrived your college course and either of us ended up being your own professor, or we trained a course together, that’d become hottest thing ever before. Men And Women was like…

Christina:

Preferred solution in town. Enrollment is actually off the chart.

Drew:

Oh, we should have an occurrence that is focused on hot professors. That isn’t appropriate.

Christina:

That’s not perhaps not pertinent. We’ll claim that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. Personally I think like there is — you should make it slightly wider, but you never know? You never know what will take the future, and that is truly interesting. While know who will know? You, listener, as soon as you stay tuned every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and also you crucially hit that outdated subscribe switch and go out around every Wednesday and have your self, “What is a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings myself to… I don’t know. I was only wanting to know… was actually this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This really is a podcast trailer.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m acquiring the hang from it therefore know what’s fantastic, is that because I asked, now i am aware, and from now on directly in communication is really exactly what it’s all about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Plus one that a lot of people in our very own community could learn. Therefore weare going to, hopefully, this is really a service. This really is a reduced amount of a podcast plus of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I happened to ben’t conscious of that, but i am thrilled to know that we’re having both a podcast and a political act. A couple of my favorite things. A couple of the best points to start off with P, podcasts and political acts.

Theme song plays.

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe my impulse is when I really like people and I would like them in my existence, I’m sure the most effective way for my situation to make sure they’re in my life is to ensure they are a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m merely thus glad that individuals’ve come to be these types of friends. And when regarding quarantine, that is what happened, we made this unique brand-new friend, which I love dearly and I’m simply pleased to speak with you always, like just what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced a thought therefore went away. It had been honestly probably really brilliant.